The question for the child is not "Do I want to be good?" but "Whom do I want to be like?"
- Bruno Bettelheim
Family Closeness
Game:
Trust Walk
Blind fold members of your family and lead them
around the house or the garden. Ask questions such as: What does this feel
like? What kind of music comes to mind now? What does this remind you of? Do
you feel safe?
Alternatives:
Smell – collect some interesting smelling things
from around the kitchen, see if your family can guess what they are.
Taste – same again using different flavours.
Touch – gather a variety of common objects from
around the home and see if your family members can guess what they are by
feeling them.
Sound – do the same with a variety of sounds. If you
have a tape recorder, record sounds from around the home.
Sharing:
These questions are to stimulate a sense of
openness, sharing and discovery about your family. The key is to listen!!
- What is one thing you don’t think you could live without? Why?
- If you could only take three things to a desert island what would they be?
- If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
- What does it mean to adore something?
- Do you remember a time when someone praised you for something you did? what did it feel like? did you like it? What are some of the words that might express praise?
Story
With your family read John
11.1-7, 17-45: Jesus and
Lazarus
(for a way of explaining/talking about this reading with children look at http://www.sermons4kids.com/thats_what_friends_are_for.htm
(The lectionary readings for Lent are very
long, especially for very young children -
the whole reading is John 11.1-45 – if you want to read the whole
passage with your family it can easily be
broken into three episodes - 11.1-16,
11.17-37, 38-45)
Questions
for Discussion:
- How long had Lazarus been in the tomb for when Jesus arrived?
- Why didn’t the people want to roll away Lazarus’s tomb stone?
- What did Jesus do before he called out Lazarus?
- How did Mary and Martha react differently when Jesus arrived?
Discuss with your family what was
interesting about the story or what made you think. What did the story tell us
about Jesus? Try using some “I wonders” that emerge from the story. (I wonder how Lazarus felt coming back from the dead?
I wonder why Jesus raised
Lazarus?)
A few
years ago in America, a letter appeared in a national newspaper that was sent to a dead person by the
Department of Social Services. It read: "Your food stamps will be stopped in
March because we received notice that you passed away. May God bless you. You
may reapply if there is a change in your circumstances."
Prayer and Celebration
We are now in the Season of Lent, the forty days
preceding Easter Day. This is traditionally a time of repentance (saying sorry
and turning from sin). The resources for prayer and celebration for the next
six weeks will focus on ways your family might “celebrate” well this season. Lent is a good time to focus on God’s care and provision and on
our dependence on him, but also on saying sorry.
Ball
Prayers
Use a
small ball to throw around to different family members. The person who throws
the ball begins the prayer. “Thank you God for…” and throws it to someone who
then finishes the prayer with one or two words…” eg. Family, rain, happiness.
Keep throwing it around for as long as you can.
Thanking
God often, and naming all the things we have to be thankful for is, I believe,
one of the most important Christian prayer habits we can develop, especially in
a consumerist society that encourages us to focus on what we don’t have as
opposed to the abundance we have been given by God.
Service
Start a
mini project with your family to discover the local charities or service
organisations in your neighbourhood or local area. Find out what they do, who
they help and how people can contribute to them in terms of service or goods.
Encourage your family to go without a particular
treat for a week or a month. Save the money you would have spent and donate it to a charity that you have
discovered.
With your family donate some things you no longer
need to a local charity such as LifeLine or Salvation Army. Encourage your
children to think about what toys or clothes they no longer use that they might
give away. Talk to them about how some children have no toys.
Family Time
Table Patters
This week work on building a meal time pattern with
your family. More than anything else this is about making meal times a special
time. This might include turning the TV off and turning on the music, setting
the table with some special things, lighting a candle, sharing a prayer,
telling a story. Your family sharing time could be based around the dinner
table and include the meal as one of the activities.
